Believe in yourself! Love yourself! We are told to do these things on a daily basis but if your foundation was founded on a shaky ground, how can you reverse the embedded negative self-belief and poor self-image? It is true that if you cannot love yourself, how can you expect others to love you and the same can be applied to believing in yourself. People will see through you and you will live your life in an inauthentic way.
There are many ways in which you can start to un-mesh the negative self-beliefs that overwhelm us all from time to time. Simple mantras such as “I am amazing, I am wonderful, I am beautiful, I am strong, I am capable” will work wonderfully as daily mantras. You can print these and pin it onto your fridge to read out loud every morning before you start your day or put them into your “Notes” section on your phone so you can read them to yourself on the go every day. Nowadays there are many amazing apps on the internet which can download positive mantras and which you can listen to every morning. I have one that I listen to every day which I found on YouTube. I think even Will Smith and others famous actors such as Samuel L Jackson share positive affirmations on YouTube which, in turn, benefits all of us. It’s a great way to start the day and can be incorporated very easily into your daily life. Plug in your ear-buds, pop your phone into your jeans pocket (or any pocket for that matter) and listen away as you prepare the children’s’ packed lunch or on your way to work; or perhaps you can play the mantras out loud. Your children are never too young to start learning about how amazing life can be and for you, you are setting your children an amazing example of how to improve their mental health and grow strong and confident as they navigate through their lives. It is sad that nowadays many young people are particularly struggling with life and the pressures of social media. Anxiety can cause liver issues, lead to depression and lack of social cohesion. In the USA they talk about young children graduating from nursery school; to us reserved Brits maybe that is a little over the top but it is important to support your children through those early years and help them build their sense of worth and self-esteem. I am a fan of the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne – I only wish it could be studied at school! I can only imagine what it would teach our children and how amazingly strong and confident they would turn out if it was included in the school curriculum.
Looking after yourself and looking after your mental health are tantamount to a happy life. Many of us have been nervous to show our insecurities and issues but there is a new way to be. People are sharing and, in my mind, sharing is caring. One of the most terrifying aspects of mental health issues is the feeling that you are alone. I have come to learn you are never alone, and if you reach out, people will be there to help you. So go on and spread some love and understanding for the people around you!
Tracey B x