In 2014, I made a conscious decision. I was one year off 50 and officially in my menopause. It was time to re-evaluate my life. Did I want to continue as I was, or did I want to get to grips with my thoughts, my body, and my life? At that moment, I decided I wanted to find ‘Destination Happy’ and I would do anything in my grasp to get there. It meant decluttering every element of my life in order to find the true me and the meaning of life. And I do believe there is a meaning to all our lives, but we just need to find what really makes us happy.
In the last five years, I’ve walked a long and windy road, finding out the true me, attending workshops, reading everything from Louise Hay, Eckhart Tolle to Susan Jeffers and more. I’ve attended The Landmark Forum, been to Tony Robbins, and cried out all the hurt. I’ve had days when I’ve struggled to get going but I’ve continued on my journey to ‘Destination Happy’. I’ve had chiropody, joined gyms, had massages, done Pilates and simply refused to give in.
I speak, of course, not just about me, but for many other women out there of a certain age, who are going through their peri- or full menopause. In most cases, we are struggling with exhaustion, with aches and pains that we never had before, and we’re thinking “What on earth is going on”? We refuse to give up the fight!
I talk a lot about acceptance and that, of course, is a big life lesson to learn. Acceptance of what is and who I am are two of my biggest learnings. That does not mean that you just sit back and wait for life to ‘exhaust’ you.
What can you do to accept but not give in
I/We don’t want to give in. I/We accept our age, but we want to continue the fight. We want to be well, fit and able to live our lives joyfully, happy and fulfilled. We don’t want to give in to the pains and aches. We will do everything we can to get to where we want to be, despite our age, not because of it!
I believe that the menopause is more than a physical change to our body, it’s also a mental challenge. The Menopause is nature’s ways of showing us what needs fixing. It could be our physical health but more often than not, it’s also our mental health. Our brain is our ‘power bank’ and everything starts with the brain. Our responses to what life chucks at us, can often, if not dealt with swiftly, manifest as illness in later years. Quite simply put, the stress of life shows up in our body at some stage, whether we want it to or not!
In my case, I have struggled with low mood, painful knees, IBS, migraines, blah blah blah. Most of the time I don’t even admit to myself how much my body hurts. Mostly because I refuse to give in. I’ll go to Fit Body Bournemouth gym and continue the fight. I’ll continue to go clubbing (but I do have to be well enough to do so of course!). I want to walk, stretch, move, write, laugh a lot and be pain-free, so I can continue to live my life to the fullest!
I’m not giving up, not because I don’t think I’m old, I do, but because I want to be the best I can be for as long as I can and that involves moving, keeping my mental state in a good place, exercising, Pilates or yoga, swimming, walking, chiropractor, massages – whatever it takes.
I’m determined that I’m going to keep on going because, trust me, I’ve worked hard enough to get to where I’m now. There is a fight in me to keep on going and through my posts and blogs, I share with you, honestly, truthfully and wholly what it’s like to be 54 with the normal amount of menopausal issues and others associated with my age.
Ladies, and indeed fellas, let’s support each other and share our knowledge and wisdom! If you don’t reveal who you really are, I truly believe it will turn in on you. Being honest and open and helping yourself and others are, I feel, the key.
I’ll keep you motivated while I keep myself motivated. Let’s keep going to continue to fight the good fight! I hope to inspire others in the process. I’ll share with you my life and my learnings to help you achieve your very best lives possible.
Tracey B x