No-one likes criticism but it’s something that we all need to learn to handle. In fact, constructive criticism is not a bad thing, if you can take it on board and work with it to your best advantage that is.
I was often deemed too sensitive over a large majority of my life, and I know where it stemmed from, my childhood. I was also highly aware of it and worked hard to ‘fix’ it. When I started to work for corporates, personality analysis was de rigeur and it often flagged up not only my good points, but a few bad ones too. Those were the hardest to swallow, given my sense of perfection, however, they were my biggest learning too. Working with a large group of men in the music industry made me harden up, no bad thing. Tears were not tolerated, and criticism was given as constructive.
Often, those who seek perfection are those who take criticism to heart. After all, if you are doing your very best, trying to be perfect, if your flaws are flagged up it’s a hard pill to swallow.
I know how that feels and sometimes it truly is a case of facing whatever comes your way and taking it on the chin.
So how do you overcome this trait of perfectionism? For years I struggled with it but I seem to have overcome it. My top tips are:
- Let go of trying to be perfect, no-one is perfect and perfection is in the eye of the beholder
- Do not think that everyone is out to attack you, more often, people want to help you by offering you constructive criticism
- Don’t be so hard on yourself – you are perfect as you are – there is nothing wrong with you
For any of you who have been following me for many years now, you will know that I am a fan of personal development and seeking to understand myself. Even in my pursuit of the truth of ‘me’ I have had to take on board some less than positive traits about myself, it’s not all about the good stuff.
It takes a willingness to want to improve to be able to accept criticism and that’s a brave thing to overcome.
One of the best tools I ever used to understand myself is the Myers Briggs personality type analysis. If you answer the questions honestly you will have a true picture of what makes you tick.
Getting to know who you truly are is a great way to overcome life’s obstacles and grow broader shoulders to change your life for the better.