What is true “happiness” and should it really be a pursuit? Surely, we should be living in the moment and enjoying every second of our amazing lives. For some, that is easier said than done.

I know that I have spent the larger part of my life searching for that elusive happiness that I so badly wanted.  It’s taken a period of years to get to that nirvana, but I got there.  For many, happiness is, indeed, a life-long pursuit.  Perhaps it is about coming to a time in our life where we are comfortable with who we are and have forgiven ourselves for everything we could possibly have done better?

One of the many ‘thunderbolt’ moments in my life was an event I attended in 2015 at the Pavilion in Bournemouth. I had yearned to see Derren Brown for a number of years.

The show started with a large ticking clock.  Derren was nowhere to be seen. As Derren’s voice came from out of the ether, a man and a woman appeared on stage; they were dancing.  Derren talked about how, as children, we were led to believe that we would be happy when we got a good education, went to University, got a good job, married well, had a family, lived in a nice house, drove a nice car.  You get the picture; everything mapped out in the pursuit of happiness.

Eventually the couple are older and retired and as they look back at their lives, they realise how much was spent seeking happiness in the form of “when we get and when we have and when our children have…..” instead of living in the moment and taking each day as it comes.  Indeed, Destination Happy was never a destination, it was already within their grasp, had they but realised it.

It was such a poignant evening that I felt, in some ways, transformed.

So how can you be happy right now?  Is there a magic formula?  Well yes, in a way there is. It is about accepting yourself and those around you, loving yourself, forgiving yourself and living in the moment, never in the past and certainly never in the future.

One of our cardinal sins is to forget to live in the moment, to embrace every day like it’s the best day of our lives, and to appreciate everything that life has to offer us, for that day. There is always something to be grateful for, whatever circumstances you find yourself in.

This is a weighty subject and one I could write oodles about.  There is more to follow. In the meantime, live in the moment, and take each day as it comes.

With love


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