I was talking to a client the other day about who you truly are behind the mask you wear?
I remember a controversial documentary many years ago that indicated that we all wear a uniform/a mask/a shield to protect us from the outside world.
Of course, we do, whether we like it or not. For some it’s a case of being very orderly and looking very much in control, for others, it’s a case of putting on a big smiley face and for some, it’s a case of bringing humour into every situation. some of the most confident and seemingly brash people I have met in my life, have, in truth, been no braver than any of us.
When I attended Landmark Forum in 2017 and 2018 I learned a lot but there were some key points that stood out for me. I learned that from a young age, we learn a method of ‘coping’ with whatever life throws at us. We talked about the class clown or the intellectual who hid behind their brain, or the sports geek whose sports prowess, kept them popular and able to succeed. For others, they shrouded themselves in a cloak of protection, quietly going about their lives, almost unseen.
Me? I was the outspoken, gregarious, full of beans, talkative, smiling child. It hid all sorts of stuff, and it was my protective cloak for many years into my 40’s when suddenly I decided I wanted to strip away the persona I had become and go back to basics. Who on earth was I?
Turns out, I had a lot of issues, and those issues became a tsunami in 2014 when I found myself completely out of my comfort zone, having moved from London to Dorset with not. friend in sight. But there was light, as it turns out that deep down inside me lay a very happy positive person, I just had lost sight of the true ‘me’.
My mask has now slipped and what you see is what you get with no apology. How refreshing to be 100% yourself without the pressure of having to be someone you are not.
If you are seeking to declutter your entire life, one of my best recommendations is to take off your mask and reveal the beauty that shines within.