I was so shocked and saddened to read of the early death of yet another young man – namely Mike Thalassitis from Love Island. I have to say I did not know him, nor do I watch that programme, but I knew he was young, good-looking and successful. He had a great life ahead of him so why, oh why, this senseless loss?
As I mused over what is happening to our young men and their mental health, something came to me loud and clear. Men, unlike women, are not able to open up to their friends. It has gone on for centuries, men are men and talk about ‘men’ things. On the other hand, women talk about everything – stress, anxiety, dieting, men, boyfriends, sex, love, shoes, handbags, sorrow, loss, divorce and of course, the golden-apple, the menopause. Men, however, have long been known to not have as many friends and the friends they do have, on the whole, chat about artificial topics like cars and the football.
I think it’s time to confess, don’t you? I think it’s time for all of us to say “I’m not okay” if you’re not okay.
Did you know that when a couple break up, it’s usually the man who finds the breakup the hardest. This is despite the fact that men think they know what ‘we’ do, it’s only when they have lost us that they realise what a massive role the woman in their life played. Personally, I know a few men who struggled after a break-up.
I think it’s time to support each other – all of us, all together, sharing and caring! It’s the ONLY way we can survive this mental health crisis.
If you ever need to talk, I’m here for you, just give me a call.
Tracey B x
Lifestyle Consultant & Blogger