Women often present symptoms differently such as being inattentive and spacing out, rather than acting out. In fact, women often spend most of their lives working hard to fit in and appear ‘normal’.  It can be blinking hard work; I speak from experience.

Many women in their 50’s and most importantly, during the menopause, are now being diagnosed with ADHD. For some it plays only a small part and life is ‘okay’ but for others, ADHD can cause serious life-impacting issues. I know so many women whose lives have changed dramatically in their 50’s and often getting an ADHD diagnosis can be a relief, not a burden.  If, like me, you spent a life thinking you were stupid and ‘different’

In fact, if the focus on the positives of ADHD, and there are loads, you can really start to turn your entire life around.  You may even begin to start to love yourself a lot more. I find myself laughing at some of the things I do now, instead of beating myself up.

You should never generalize, although I am going to sound like I am, but I have not met a fellow ADHD’er who isn’t the life and soul of the party, full of beans, bouncy and fun just like tigger but is more often than not, driven by perfectionism, scatty, hard on themselves and just plain tearful and exhausted all the time!  They nearly always have clutter as well.

ADHD’ers are the worriers of the world and that does not make life easy.  I often say to myself now that it’s not possible to worry about everything and then I try and let go.

There are ways to handle the condition ‘naturally’ without the use of medication – these are my suggestions, based on experience –


Eat great food, organic and green

Avoid sugar like the plague

Exercise lots

Hang out with good supportive friends who help you make good life decisions

Walk loads

Listen to amazing mentors like Mel Robbins (who has ADHD)


Avoid alcohol as much as possible (wine is the worst)

Avoid recreational drugs

Declutter – having less stuff is so relaxing!

Practice mindfulness and focus on the moment rather than the moment in the future


I have years of having ADHD under my belt, but you would never have known.  I hid it well.  My menopause and the trauma from my marriage break down, triggered the symptoms, but now I know who I am, I can, in the words of the famous song learn to

“Eliminate the negatives and accentuate the positives’

With Love