There’s no magic formula to finding happiness, however, here are my top tips to being truly happy, as told by some of the great mentors around the world, and @lifehack.
How many times have you heard “if you don’t love yourself, how do you expect others to love you?” Boy, this is an empowering question! We have up to 60,000 thoughts every day; make them good ones; good ones about yourself and others. Once you love yourself you start to see the world and others in a different way. Once you change the way you see others you will no longer feel that sense of angst when you battle against those who will not and cannot change.
It is a word bandied around a lot, but I challenge you to write down twenty things that you are grateful for before bed and another ten in the morning. It could be as simple as ‘You love the fact your bed is cosy and warm, and you have a great book to read’ to when you wake up in the morning ‘it is another day on planet earth and how lucky you are’. Say thank you for everything that you are happy to have in your life. You will then create more happiness. Living in the moment and seeing what is around you and the beauty that surrounds us fills you with the most unbelievable elixir for life.
ACCEPT YOURSELF AND EVERYTHING AROUND YOU
You do not need to fix or criticise anything; once you accept what is you will feel much happier.
DO NOT LIVE IN THE PAST
Live in the now and make every second count.
VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME
Why not volunteer your spare time for a charity or fundraising event to help others. Once you see the lives of others you will know how blessed you are.
Never just “let it lie”. We are here to learn and grow so setting goals and challenges is what we are here for and the way we keep LIVING. LIVING is about LIVING. So if you always wanted to hike to Machu Picchu, then set it as your goal. I know women in their 80s who are still travelling around the world. Do not let age set you back. We need goals to keep us moving forward. It could be from the smallest goal to the biggest adventure of your life. Nothing is wrong – nothing is too small or too large.
LOOK AFTER YOURSELF
That does not mean running a 5k every week. It is more than that. I am a personal believer in always being the best version of you, i.e. getting up, getting dressed, doing your hair, your make-up, looking and feeling amazing; whatever your age. You are never too old to embrace the essence of who you were and who you still are. Eat well, sleep well, keep moving, keep your brain alive and active.
MAKE EVERY SECOND COUNT
Live in the now. Not the past, not the future. From the minute you get up, treat the day like it is the best day of your life. Your best hair day, your best food day, your best attitude day, your best achievement day.
But most of all, my lightbulb moment was from someone who is one of the most lauded spiritual mentors in the world. His words really resonate with me. “Once you accept that life is not meant to be happy every day” you will then ‘let go’ and simply be happy. You will accept what is, the good stuff, the bad stuff, the indifferent stuff. Once you know that your life is YOUR life, then all you need to do is accept it and make the best version of your life that you can. My favourite mentor, who is humorous, intelligent and inspirational is @EckhartTolle – if you need that “oh, okay, I get it moment” – he is the one to follow!
I am only glad, that at the age of 55, having spent so many years trying to figure out what will make me happy, I have finally found the magic formula. Do not fight what is, just accept it. If you do not like it, then change it. If you accept “it is what it is”, then try to make it the best you can. Once you change your attitude then you will find that so many things will start to fall into place, and situations which you found onerous will turn into “gold”.
#destinationhappy is a great place to aim for but the secret to happiness lies within you.
With my love and positive wishes.
Let’s Declutter Your Life Together
Tracey B x
The Lifestyle Concept